Ever have one of those days where everything just seems to go right? Your hair is especially great, your clothes fit perfectly, you look in great shape, you’re well rested, there’s a swagger in your step, the banter flies off your tongue effortlessly, girls check you out left right and centre. You know what I mean.
Essentially, what is happening, is that a wide range of variables are all coming to near their optimal levels at the same time, with a corresponding cumulative boost to your mood and confidence, which reflects in your body language, posture, eye contact and subcommunication. I was talking to this with Matt from the 3 Bromigos the other day, and he used the term “when the planets align”, which I thought was a great analogy.
I had the best one of these days I’ve ever had earlier this week. On top of the factors mentioned above, the extra boost to my confidence from having a girlfriend has seemingly propelled me to new heights. As I was walking the streets, a group of Spanish tourist girls literally stopped dead in their tracks, and all started staring and smiling at me. As I strode past with a wink, they all burst into fits of giggles and started whispering to each other. Later on, a woman I was walking next to caught sight of me out of the corner of her eye, and turned to me, a look of extreme interest and a smile on her face and said “Don’t I know you from somewhere?” I said “Is that a line?”, to which she replied “No. But it could be, you’re very handsome”, whilst blushing. On the tube on the way back to work after my lunch, there was a girl sat next to me, talking to her friend opposite. The girl next to me had to lean over and literally snap her fingers in front of her friend’s face to break her out of staring at me, and listen to what she was saying. The girl opposite went absolutely crimson when she realised what she’d been doing, and then all of us had a laugh about it, including some amazed looks from the guy sat a few seats down. I felt like a celebrity.
So this is great, right? How can you make sure this happens as often as possible? Each variable that contributes to this overall effect can fluctuate wildly if you don’t make any effort to control it. This essentially means that only randomly, and infrequently, will days like this occur. However, if like me, you are obsessed with self-improvement, and figuring out and then adhering to the optimal method of improving each and every facet that goes into your overall value – appearance, dress sense, physique, health, social skills, wealth – you will find that days like this happen more and more regularly. What you’re aiming to do is bring all of these fluctuating variables firmly under your control.
Some quick examples of what I do:
- optimise sleep so that I’m always refreshed, clear headed and in a good mood (here, here and here)
- strict adherence to diet and workout plan, so I am always in great shape (here – this is out of date now, but still applies – my physique has since improved considerably)
- wear tailored clothes, which I get dry cleaned and starched every week to ensure optimal crispness
- practise eye contact and good conversation skills
- obsessive adherence to my morning grooming ritual
The list goes on. Essentially, I’ve made the variables my bitch.
It’s not possible to have your best day every day. But I’m damn well going to try.