Much talk is often made of the majority of bloggers in the Manosphere probably originating as introverted characters, who learned to display some extrovert traits. Most comfortable with spending prolonged periods of time alone, social interactions have to be practised, and “stamina” accumulated over time. Eventually however, the introvert will become tired and revert to type, requiring time along to recharge.
Extroversion is usually seen as a desired trait, to thrive off being the centre of attention, and to effortless gain energy from large social groups. This in itself can be a curse however – prolonged periods of solitude for an extrovert can send them into a depressive state, and can in fact cause them to act in an overly exaggerated manner in gatherings simply to validate themselves.
This is however a third type of loose personality categorisation, which is often overlooked entirely – namely that of the ambivert. Ambiverts are comfortable spending time in social groups or on their own, but not to the same levels of extremes as extroverts or introverts respectively. In fact, this could actually be said to be more desirable than either extroversion or introversion, possessing some of the best qualities of both without the more severe symptoms.
You can take a quick online test here to determine your own characteristics – http://www.danpink.com/assessment
I was caused to reflect on this important distinction by a recent comment exchange whereby I discovered in myself an innate urge to curb what I consider to be extreme statements. Initially, I would have chalked this down to simple “people pleasing”, brought on by a need for validation of being like by others, and not wishing to offend people. Since I’m pretty well past that stage in my life however, I sense that it must be something more ingrained within me. I underwent a simple, online handwriting analysis about 7 years ago, and as I now recall, my overall personality type came out as ambivert, which was confirmed by the online assessment above.
It summarised the main trait of ambiversion as being able to get along with almost all types of people, except those displaying extreme character traits, to which you are repulsed. Keeping one eye firmly on wishing to avoid falling into the trap of applying generalised cold reading statements to myself, I can’t help but agree with this. I can hold a conversation for any length of time with almost anyone, from any walk of life, but I immediately label those people with outlying personality traits as wankers, and not worthy of my time.
Where do you fall on the spectrum?