I’m a firm believer in the axiom of “leave a girl better than you found her”, or at least no worse, when applied to how to conduct yourself during dating and getting/keeping a girl in rotation. I’ve got no time for guys who deliberately and maliciously manipulate girls into bed solely for their own pleasure, leaving them a wreck afterwards. It’s the worst kind of selfishness.
That said, my game has recently being challenged to its limit by a French girl, one of the ones who got in touch with me during my week of lazy man game. She’s probably a low to mid 8, very slim, dresses well, feminine. She’s never been single for longer than a week in her life, and has had 4 boyfriends, so that means her n is very low, another plus. She’s currently in the death throes of her most recent one, and sees me as a logical upgrade (obviously!).
She came over last night with her friend, the three of us and my housemate went out together, she was all over me, but every time I tried to kiss her, she would refuse and turn her head away. I knew I could get her back to mine with little effort, so I wasn’t that bothered – until later, when I’d been in bed with her for nigh on three hours, hands all over her, hers on me, her grinding on my cock through my pants, and she still refused to kiss me. I tried every trick in the book – agree and carry on regardless, build slow tension, get her as horny as possible, periodic freezeouts – every time my hand got to within an inch of her pussy, or my lips within an inch of hers (the mouth lips this time ;-)), she would pull away. I’ll hand it to her – the girl had an iron will.
At the time, she cited that it was because she was still involved with her boyfriend. I recall thinking clearly “Well, I’m sure he’d be overjoyed to know you writhed half naked on top of some dude’s cock, but didn’t actually kiss him, so therefore can be absolved of any blame.” She’s changed tract after a facebook chat today however, and is now citing that she needs to know that I genuinely like her before she is comfortable doing that stuff.
I’m no mug, and I won’t be played for a fool. I told her in no uncertain terms that I need to be able to express myself physically in order to know if I genuinely like someone or not, and I won’t be blackmailed into saying what she wants to hear just so she can get her way. She admitted last night that she’s had the upper hand in every single relationship she’s had – she’s always been the one to end it on her own terms, and walk away. The girl won’t budge! She said she wants to meet up again, and I’ve said that if we do meet up, and she pulls the “turning her head away” crap on me again, I’ll leave right there and then.
It would be the easiest thing in the world to just tell her “Yes, I really like you, I can see this going somewhere, ditch your boyfriend and go out with me instead.” I could say that and be penetrating her by tomorrow night most likely, but I am simply not prepared to lie through my teeth in that fashion. She’s a sweet girl, and I will not deliberately cause her to think there is potentially more there than there actually is, and end up leaving her heartbroken.
I think in the end its going to come down to a brinksmanship. I know she is strongly attracted to me, and I need leverage her fear of losing me. That way, I can get the hookup on my terms, and we’re both on the same page, and no-one has had to lie to anyone else. Could you claim that this is also just manipulating her? Perhaps, but there is no deceit involved – she’s a grown woman, and if she chooses to go ahead with her eyes wide open, then that’s entirely her own choice. I’m prepared to lose her if needs be – you have to always be prepared to lose the girl if you truly want to be successful in your pursuit.
Either way, I’m enjoying the challenge – it’s been a while since a girl I’ve pursued made it anything other than a formality to go through the motions!