I debated writing this post. I see plenty of stuff written in blogs that I disagree with on a daily basis – indeed the world would be a boring place if we all agreed on everything all the time, even within the small portion of the internet we refer to as the manosphere. I usually refrain from commenting, because mainly it’s a simple difference of opinion, doesn’t really hurt anyone, and I can’t help but feel that it’s somehow bad manners to go over to someone else’s blog and start telling them how you think they’re wrong – it’s kind of like walking up to someone’s front door and taking a turd on the doormat.
I read something tonight however that I just felt I couldn’t keep silent about. This post is from last year some time, but I’ve only just noticed it due to it being linked on Twitter. Judge for yourselves – http://elementsofgame.wordpress.com/2012/09/15/a-craigslist-ad-answered/ (also http://bit.ly/YRHblh – Google’s cached version on the offchance the post is removed).
The manosphere is many things to many people. A lot of people first come here looking for tips on picking up girls, and find themselves a year later deep down a pathway of personal development and self improvement. I was firmly in this camp when I came to this part of the internet.
As time has progressed, I view things differently. To me, the manosphere I want to be associated with, and contribute to in my own small way, is about aspiring to improve yourself as an individual. Becoming a better man, earning more money, getting in shape, improving your social skills, and so on and so forth. A collection of like minded individuals inspiring one another to better themselves. And moreover, to not only increase in accomplishments, but to become a better person as you progress. To earn the respect of others, to be a role model for other men to aspire to, to live your life in a manner befitting a good man, in a way in which you can be proud to look yourself in the eye in the mirror every day, knowing that you live true to your principles.
What is should not be about, is lying, manipulating and conniving in order to obtain what you are after, no matter the cost and who you have to shit on to get it. What makes the above story even more galling is that it is perfectly possible to get all the pussy you could ever want by being a decent, principled individual, who is honest and authentic about their intentions, without resorting to cynically taking advantage of naive young girls by lying to them, systematically sexually humiliating them, and then actually going online to brag about it.
Those of us who run blogs who get even a small amount of daily views must be aware on some level that there are impressionable guys reading these sites, who through the various ills of society lack guidance in how they should be living their lives and conducting themselves as individuals. There is an opportunity to be a role model to people, to promote the living of one’s life on principled terms, whilst still being able to achieve anything you are after, be it looks, money, girls, or a combination of all three. The last thing anyone should be doing is encouraging people to behave in a manner that is directly harmful to other people simply to perpetuate personal gain.
Those two of you that commented on that post – I thought more of the first of you than to condone this sort of thing, and the second is a prime illustration of why this kind of thing is bad when read by people who apparently have impressionable young minds (judging by the word “teen” in your Twitter handle). Giving someone props for “not feeling any guilt” after behaving like that? Really? This is something you aspire to do?
It’s perfectly possible to observe and take advantage of the decline of society, by making the most of promiscuous women and living solely for yourself, without contributing to it by resorting to morally reprehensible behaviour
And in response to the tweet I’ve just seen bemoaning how “it’s sad when the manosphere only wants you to have success “their” way”: I think it’s far sadder that “your” way of having success is to lie to a naive young girl and inflict a sexual episode upon her which will probably stay with her for life purely for your own physical gratification. And then that you complain when you get called out for it.