So, after reflection, I decided to take down my post yesterday bemoaning the lack of decent women in western society (sorry Francie Begbie, I see that you’d commented on it).
It was a negative post, exactly in the vein of those which I have recently been critical of. It’s not constructive to think in such terms – if you view the world through a lens of negativity, that’s all you’re going to see. That, and the fact that Lucky Lothario managed to somewhat embarrassingly point out to me that I’d managed to perform some impressive mental gymnastics to come up with a line that claimed 100% – 98% = 5%. Must have been gymnastics at the special Olympics.
As stated, I feel I’m at a point in my life where I’m looking for more than just random hookups for the sake of it. I don’t need the ego validation, and the sex is ho hum, and readily available through online dating with a bit of effort anyway. It would be pretty great to have someone to start sharing stuff with, to give life a bit more meaning.
I’ve been doing some thinking, and I’ve realised that the single most important factor I can highlight in the suitability of a girl for me is intelligence. Not education mind you, since anyone can acquire that with enough time and effort, but rather a bright, quick, inquisitive, open and engaging mind, coupled with a corresponding personality. I get bored extremely easily, and I’ve found my group of friends whittled down to a very select few over the last couple of years, since I find I simply do not get enough stimulation out of interacting with most people to make it worthwhile investing the time. Obviously, she needs to be attractive as well. Model looks aren’t required (but hey, they’d be nice), but at least a solid 8/8.5.
Now, the main problem with doing cold approach anywhere, anytime is it is a total crapshoot in terms of what the girl’s intelligence level is going to be. You obviously know you’re physically attracted to her, but the chances that she’s going to be in that 1% edge of the bell curve that means you’re going to hit it off intellectually are vanishingly small. I can go from turned on by a girl’s look to turned off by her personality in the space of 30 seconds.
Approaching the problem from the reverse angle appears to be the sensible way to go about it. If I put myself in a situation where there is a lot of opportunity to interact with girls socially, and they are all of at least a certain level of intelligence, then the law of probability states that at least a few of them are going to be hot enough.
It seems to me that enrolling in classes such as philosophy, psychology and literature are sound bets. Fortunately, I am already highly interested in all of these things myself, so it wouldn’t be the same as pretending I like Salsa classes just to get a bit of minge. Unfortunately, I don’t have the time to actively pursue this at the moment, what with having a full time job, and training most evenings of the week. When I manage to get out of work however, this is going to be pretty much the first thing I pursue in an effort to get this next phase of my life on track.
If anyone else can think of good opportunities or venues to mix socially with girls like this, I’d be glad to hear them.
Have a good weekend all, cheers.