I’m ready for something new.
I’ve been on the journey over the past year or so – discover the manosphere, experience fervent excitement at stumbling across this collection of like-minded, erudite bloggers.
Devour all the information I can find, follow every link, have my impressionable mind tainted with the bitterness and misogyny being exhibited.
Use the dark alpha traits to pick up girls, deriving no satisfaction from shallow encounters based on values that are not my own.
Become dispirited, bemoaning the lack of quality women, not realising that going about my romantic encounters with a heart full of negativity is merely serving to draw negative experiences towards me.
And there it would have stayed – stuck in a cycle of unsatisfying hookups, continual criticisms of the ills of society, and the corresponding attribution of blame at the feet of womankind – had I not decided to finally stump up some cash and get myself a coaching session with Steve Jabba.
I can credit that meeting with really setting me on the path to true confidence and happiness. It taught me that you don’t need these “bad boy” alpha traits, you don’t need to view women as objects of spite, mere receptacles for all your own bitterness. I learned you can bring women into your life by being positive, confident, complimenting them, loving them generally for who they are, rather than just concentrating on the negative all the time.
I’ve just come from reading an article espousing the pointlessness of ever getting into an LTR, breaking it down as if it was some kind of mathematical cost-benefit analysis. I personally may choose a certain path in life, and my values are not everyone else’s, but when I see people spreading their own bitterness around and instructing others to do the same, it just makes me realise that this the Manosphere is doing more harm than good.
Just the other day I read an article trumpeting the benefits of being a father as if it was some kind of fucking revelatory information – are people around here really so maladjusted? I may not want kids at this stage in my life, but when I do, I have no doubt what a rewarding experience it will be, the opportunity to pass on my lifetime of experience, and to provide a safe, stable family unit with a strong masculine presence for them to develop in. Does this really need pointing out to people? Really?
Yes these issues need discussing, but the courses of action recommended are simply not befitting the actions of responsible, mature men. I’m quite capable of being aware of the decline of society, and choosing to take no part in it, without trying to speed up the process by encouraging people not to express the most basic male/female dynamic for companionship and form relationships with one another.
So where now? I’ve already formed a kind of uber-manosphere in my RSS reader, a filtered list of only those blogs that remain universally positive and helpful in their outlook, but there’s not really that many of them. Even some of those that do just end up repeating the same content over and over again.
I’m becoming increasingly interested in “sprititualism” (I use the term hesitantly – I can’t stand 99% of the mystical shite associated with the term), by which I solely mean the meta-analysis of my own cognition and consciousness. I also feel I’m entering a more altruistic period of my life, whereby I’m beginning to derive greater pleasure from helping those around me, rather than just pursuing everything for purely selfish reasons.
If anyone’s got any good blog recommendations, I’ll be glad to check them out.
Take it easy