I’ve largely stopped reading mainstream manosphere literature, finding it generally far too pessimistic and misogynistic in tone. I’ve actually noticed myself become increasingly more positive about life in general since I did so.
On the occasions I do find myself getting down and mucky for a good old fashioned trawl, I find many younger manosphere writers blogging about topics that I have personal knowledge of myself, having been through the same experiences, learned how to deal with them, and come out the other side a wiser, happier person.
I’m always tempted to comment, attempting to impart some wisdom, and yet my typing fingers are usually stayed by the thoughts of a) I don’t want to come off as a patronising, lecturing old bastard and b) the advice would probably be rejected or remain unheeded under the universal unwritten law of “disregard all advice given by others until you have personally been through what they told you how to avoid, and come to the same conclusion yourself”.
As always with such matters, a Google search for sayings on advice turns up salient, conflicting alternatives:
- Good advice is always certain to be ignored, but that’s no reason not to give it – Agatha Christie
- Friendship will not stand the strain of very much good advice for very long – Robert Lynd
So there we have it.
My own favourite, which conveys my attitude towards advice, is probably:
- Many receive advice, only the wise profit from it – Publilius Syrus
By that measure, I certainly was not wise for most of my life…