Standing amidst the cacophony of sound and blinding lights, the upper echelons of the part of society comprised of the young, wealthy and good looking surrounding me, stone cold sober, a deep seated unshakeable calm exists within me.
Only 12 months ago, I’d have been nervously shifting my feet, draining my double JD and coke as fast as possible, welcoming the stupefying embrace of alcohol to ward against the pangs of social anxiety that used to overcome me sober in such venues. Thoughts of “I’ve got no banter. I hope that hot girl doesn’t speak to me” would have crowded my mind, until such time as I drowned them in intoxication.
Now, I cast my gaze impassively around me, soft drink in hand, completely at ease with myself and my surroundings. IOIs coming thick and fast, my arse getting groped by unseen female hands in the crowd (well, I hope they were female at least), I’m clearly radiating an attractive presence. Respectful nods from all the doorstaff and the manager, having blagged my way into the opening night of a new club despite it being strictly guest list only. A lot can change in 12 months it would seem!
I’ll wake up tomorrow, no hangover, no 3 day depression in store, eat healthy, go to the gym, and get some productive work done on my projects. I can’t believe how many days of my life I effectively lost to the debilitating effects of alcohol over the last 15 years.
I’m by no means yet where I want to be. After a lifetime of repressing my natural urges through fear of being labelled a creep, I’m having to learn from scratch how to be a sexual man and express it congruently to the real top value girls I’m after, but I’ve got a firm knowledge of how to get there finally. The realisation of how simple this actually all needs to be has been a revelation, I’ve been massively overcomplicating it all for so long.
See hot girl – open – make genuine statement of what you like about her – banter – sexualise – close. That’s all there is to it. No DHVs, negs, concealing of interest, dark triads, dread game or any of that crap.
Embrace the simplicity!