What are you looking for in a woman?
The answer to this, for me at least, has changed greatly over the past few years.
Back in the wilderness of my beta days, I viewed women as a fantasy ideal, a gateway to a blissful paradise land of having a best friend, soulmate, and lover, all wrapped into one portion of awesomeness. Consequently, I pedestalised women, and got nowhere fast with many of them.
Then came the learning of game. Suddenly, I began to realise I could actually increase my access to women, and start pulling them in far greater numbers. 6s & 7s became commonplace, and soon they fell from their pedestal. Once my rose tinted spectacles were off, I began to see them for who they were – just run of the mill people, all with their own positive and negative qualities, but none of them sufficiently different or interesting to captivate my interest for long.
But this didn’t matter, because now the 8s were the gatekeepers of awesomeness! They would provide the dream like relationship that the movies had told me existed. Except then, I started pulling a few of them too, and I started noticing that personality wise, they were no different than the 6s & 7s, they were just presented better.
Again, I set my sights higher still – if the 8.5s and 9s could not provide me with all that I had been seeking, who could? Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not claiming I’m some kind of lothario who can go out and be knee-deep in model clunge every time I go out, but I have pulled a few extremely hot girls in my time, run standard game on them, and got them to the point where they were eating out of my hand. And guess what? They’re exactly the same as the 6s, 7s & 8s when you get down to it. Generally boring, shallow, and with very little of intellectual interest to talk about beyond the latest celebrity gossip, or what one friend said about another friend.
So in some ways, I feel like I’ve come out of the other side of my game journey, somewhat disillusioned with womankind as a whole. I think you have to make a choice – do you go after the intellectual, funny, confident outgoing type of girl (predominantly masculine traits) who isn’t particularly feminine, or do you go after the coy, demure, submissive, more feminine and attractive type of girl, but who consequently can’t give you the intellectual connection on a more masculine level that you really need to form a complete partnership with someone?
Whilst I think it is possible to find girls in whom both sets of qualities exist, it’s extremely rare. More and more, I’m coming to the conclusion, that it simply isn’t possible to have all your needs – physical, emotional, and mental – fulfilled by one single person. Or if you do, you’re extremely lucky.
At the moment, I’ve got a few girls in my life, who I see on a semi-regular basis, who I get my physical needs from – sex, comfort, a bed partner sometimes. And I have intelligent, confident outgoing male friends, in conjunction with all the excellent content I read on the manosphere, which provides my with my intellectual needs.
Some small beta part of me still wants to believe that one day, I will meet a girl who will bring the whole package to the table, and we’ll run off together into a dream land of perfect loveliness. But I’ve been looking for some time now, and I’ve not even found one that comes close thus far.
I do believe however that as age, and my SMV increases towards its peak, and I advance through the echelons of society, by increasing my wealth and value, that I will naturally start discovering venues where there is more chance of finding one of these types of girl. After all, if you were one of these girls, would you not congregate where all the highest value men could be find – in terms of wealth and social standing?
But in the meantime, my life’s work of furthering myself on every level shall continue, so that when the day does arrive when I encounter a truly top tier girl, I will have the full skillset and attributes to effortlessly attract her – game, style, wealth, confidence and education.